Why I Built KnowThem
A personal story about forgetting people, the limits of human memory, and building a calmer way to stay connected.
By Anson Jaison — Founder, KnowThem
I've always had this oddly specific problem.
I would meet people, have genuinely good conversations with them, and then later struggle to remember the details that mattered. Sometimes I remembered the face but forgot the name. Sometimes I remembered both, but forgot the conversation, the context, or why that interaction mattered in the first place.
And honestly, the awkwardness of that feeling stayed with me for a long time.
"We barely have good systems for remembering people, and the existing tools never felt right."
As college life became busier, networking increased, communities grew larger, and more people entered my life, it became harder to mentally keep track of everyone. Not because those people were unimportant. But because human memory has limits.
I realized something interesting: we already have systems for remembering almost everything. We use calendars for dates, notes apps for ideas, task managers for work, bookmarks for links, cloud storage for files. But we barely have good systems for remembering people.
And the existing tools never felt right to me. Traditional CRMs felt too corporate. Contact apps felt too shallow. Social media platforms were noisy and passive. I didn't want a sales pipeline. I wanted a calm place where I could remember people better.
How it started
That was the original idea behind KnowThem. At first, it was extremely simple, just a small workspace where I could save people I meet, add notes about them, remember context, and search through them later. That alone solved a surprisingly real problem.
But while building it, I started realizing how much more relationships depend on continuity. Not just remembering names. But remembering conversations, follow-ups, birthdays, plans, shared ideas, promises, and moments.
How KnowThem evolved
The feeling I wanted to protect
Even as the product evolved, I wanted to protect one thing: the feeling. I never wanted KnowThem to feel cold, corporate, or transactional. I didn't want it to become another productivity machine optimized around metrics and pipelines.
I wanted it to feel calm. Intentional. Human.
Design decisions that were intentional
- Soft, minimal interfaces with no clutter or overwhelming dashboards
- Warm green color palette, chosen to feel trustworthy and peaceful, not aggressive
- Clean organization that doesn't require a learning curve
- Emotionally calm interactions at every step
- No sales pipeline metaphors; just people and relationships
Even the green color palette was intentional. I wanted the app to feel like a quiet, trusted notebook rather than a loud dashboard.
Today, KnowThem is still evolving. There's still a long way to go. But at its core, the mission remains incredibly simple:
"Helping people remember the people who matter. Because relationships are built through small details, and sometimes, staying connected isn't about having a better memory. Sometimes you just need a better system."
About the founder
Anson Jaison
B.Tech Computer Science — Developer, Designer & Product Builder
Hi, I'm Anson, a B.Tech Computer Science graduate with a deep interest in building digital experiences that feel thoughtful and human. I enjoy working across software development, UI/UX design, branding, storytelling, and product building.
KnowThem started from a very personal problem I faced myself. What began as a simple idea slowly evolved into a modern relationship intelligence workspace focused on helping people stay connected more intentionally.
What I care about
- Clean and minimal interfaces that feel obvious, not clever
- Human-centered technology built around real problems
- Calm, emotionally considered user experiences
- Meaningful product design with a clear point of view
- Thoughtful storytelling through software
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